Loving yourself is the only solution
Loving yourself is the only solution to addictive behavior and mental health issues. To change and transform the current trajectory of a person's life, to end an individual's addiction and dependency upon drugs and alcohol forever, and to find an actual resolution to mental health problems will require that the individual learn how to authentically respect, approve, accept, acknowledge and eventually come to love himself just as he is now, in the present moment.
Learning what loving himself is all about and bringing the knowledge of self-love into his life will give him true wisdom and genuine happiness. Experiencing authentic self-love is simple but requires commitment and dedication to transformation. The individual will need help from others and, as a result, must be open and willing to accept and follow all of the suggestions from others who know about and live the principles of transformation.
To transform himself, the individual will need to learn the knowledge necessary to transform and practice it daily to experience and bring the wisdom of self-love into his life. An individual can transform only if he changes his negative thinking about himself, especially his thinking about his perceived value and worth as a human being, into that which is authentically positive. Any negative ideas, thoughts, beliefs, or considerations about oneself must be given up absolutely and replaced with positive ones.
When a person comes to think and believe positively about himself, he will come to think and believe that he is perfect, whole, and complete, that he genuinely matters, that he is good enough, that he is enough, just as he is in the present moment and will cease all self-harm. When a person comes to think positively about himself, he will come to love himself authentically, he will no longer have a desire or need to use drugs or alcohol or feel depressed, anxious, and worthless, and he will be accepting and approving with who he is in the present moment, in the Now. As stated above, self-approval and self-acceptance are the keys to genuine self-love.
Dr. Harry Henshaw
Cause of Addictive Behavior
The actual cause of drug and alcohol addiction, addictive behavior, is a thought or belief. The exact cause of an individual's addiction or dependency to drugs and alcohol and many, if not most, mental health problems is that the individual thinks and believes that he is not good enough or less than others, and as a result, there is a lack of self-love due to his negative thinking about his value and worth as a human being.
When a person believes that he is fundamentally not good enough, referred to here as his core or self-limiting belief, he will continually engage in self-destructive or self-sabotaging behaviors that will support, reinforce, and even validate his negative thoughts and beliefs about his perceived value and worth as a human being. What a person thinks and believes about himself will affect, if not determine, how he feels about himself and how he treats and behaves toward himself.
As a result of his negative thinking about himself, he will also source or attract specific dangerous experiences and substances into his life, including and especially drugs and alcohol, that will not only validate his perception of himself but will harm, if not eventually kill him if he continues with that type of behavior. The cause of a person's addiction to drugs and alcohol is in his mind, his mental health, psychology, and thinking, especially in his thoughts and beliefs about himself and not in his body!
Drugs and alcohol are not the real problem; they never have been. Drugs and alcohol are merely symptoms and instruments a person uses to inflict self-harm. More precisely, I believe that drugs and alcohol are simply the instruments that someone uses to self-execute. The actual cause of drug and alcohol addiction is the belief that I am not good enough, inadequate, and do not matter. This principle applies to all other addictive behaviors, including gambling, food disorders, porn, and sex addiction, as well as many, if not most, of the mental health disorders.
Dr. Harry Henshaw
