Positive Affirmations for Self-Esteem
Self-esteem is essential to our health and well-being. Self-esteem affects every aspect or domain of our lives. Whether our self-esteem is positive or negative, it will affect our work and vocational aspirations, finances, relationships, and mental and physical health. When we have negative self-esteem and think and believe that we are not good enough, we tend to have a negative self-fulfilling prophecy and, as a result, self-sabotage.
Many people attempt to create positive self-esteem by having, doing, or by other people's opinions of them. Some believe that acquiring things of monetary value, like an expensive house or car, will make them think and feel good about themselves. Others believe they will feel good about themselves if they can do something, like a valuable job or essential profession. Still, others will think that getting others to like or think highly of them will make them feel worthwhile and increase their self-worth.
Many believe they can improve their self-esteem by utilizing the abovementioned methods, but none create lasting, authentic self-esteem. There is only one genuine way to improve self-esteem. The most effective method for improving or enhancing self-esteem is cognitive restructuring. Cognitive restructuring is a technique that helps you identify and challenge negative thought patterns and replace them with healthier, positive ways of thinking.
Cognitive restructuring can involve using positive affirmations to help you redefine or transform your current negative self-image and, as a result, improve your self-esteem. An affirmation is anything that you say or think. We can transform our self-image by repeating positive affirmations throughout the day. While this process of transforming oneself is simple, it takes work. Transforming your self-image using a cognitive restructuring strategy with positive affirmations takes time and must be done daily to have the desired effect.
Positive Affirmations have a powerful and profound effect on our psychological and physiological well-being. Using positive affirmations decreases stress, reduces anxiety, increases positive self-worth and self-esteem, controls and eliminates self-sabotaging thoughts and speech, improves academic performance, improves mood, improves problem-solving, promotes positive coping, helps individuals be open to behavior change, improves work, improves relationships with others, improves your ability to be more optimistic, enables you to sleep better.
As a practicing psychotherapist, I have created positive affirmation recordings. I utilize these positive affirmation recordings to help my clients learn how to reduce their negative thoughts and increase positive thinking. This results in improved self-image, self-esteem, and confidence. When my clients use the positive affirmation recordings as prescribed, they get positive results.
My positive affirmation recordings use ten positive affirmations recorded and presented to the listener in a loop fashion. My therapeutic relaxation music is mixed with the positive affirmation recording to relax the individual listening. Research has shown that when a person is relaxed and comfortable, he is more open and receptive to fully accepting positive affirmations.
The optimal way to listen to this recording of positive affirmations is with good-quality headphones. It is also important to rest comfortably in a chair and in front of a full-length mirror while listening to my recording. Ensure you will have no distractions while listening to the positive affirmations on this recording. You must give your full attention to the positive affirmation recording.
When you eventually hear a positive affirmation, there will be a pause of about seven seconds before you hear the following positive affirmation. During this seven-second pause, you will repeat the positive affirmation you just heard aloud. It is essential to say the positive affirmation to yourself in the mirror. During the recording, keep your attention only on the recording of positive affirmations and the image of yourself in the mirror.
If your attention wanders from looking at the picture of yourself in the mirror or listening to the positive affirmations on the recording, gently bring your attention back to the positive affirmations and the image in the mirror. Keeping your attention focused on the positive affirmations and your image in the mirror is part of the meditative experience of the recording. Listen to the entire positive affirmation recording until it ends.
As the recording ends, choose one of the ten positive affirmations to rehearse verbally during the day. This is your positive affirmation to repeat to yourself throughout the day. Choose another positive affirmation the next day, and so on, until you have verbally rehearsed all ten of the positive affirmations on the recording. Continue this practice daily.
Each recording of my positive affirmations is approximately 30 minutes long and costs only $2.95. In addition, each recording comes with a full money-back guarantee if you are not completely satisfied. Click below to experience my positive affirmation recording and to buy it today. When you buy the positive affirmation recording, it will be emailed to you immediately.
Dr. Harry Henshaw
Being Aware of Resistance
Specific barriers exist to recovery and transformation. These barriers inhibit or even stop a person's healing and transformation from knowledge to wisdom. While resistance is a normal part of the change process, it can stop you from transforming your life unless understood adequately and appropriately. Resistance is primarily a psychological process whereby your unconscious program resists or attempts to prevent any new knowledge or information that differs from its inherent structure from being considered or accepted for implementation by the individual.
The first step in moving past your resistance to change is awareness. It is vital to your process and progress in transformation that you know that you are resisting change, resisting what you need to think and do to change, and, as a result, engaging in self-sabotage. Knowing how you resist change helps you move past your resistance and continue your recovery and transformation. When we adequately understand resistance, we can use it to help us continue to change and ensure the change is permanent.
Below are four prevalent, detrimental, and even harmful forms of resistance that can stop your efforts to change and transform your life. These forms of resistance are thought patterns that operate or function in your mind. However, they can be changed and transformed.
Impatience: Impatience is one of the most common and powerful forms of resistance. It occurs when a person wants the rewards or destination of the change process but wants to do something other than the specific work necessary to achieve a state of wisdom. Impatience is based on a solid allegiance to immediate or instant gratification as a way to live life. The solution is to practice patience in all of your daily affairs.
Not following Suggestions: Suggestions are ideas or thoughts from another person designed to assist you in your journey from knowledge to wisdom. Resistance occurs when you do not accept or openly refuse to consider the ideas and thoughts given by another individual to help you successfully travel the road from knowledge to wisdom. The solution is to follow all of the suggestions of your therapist and sponsor without question.
Procrastination: Procrastination is a powerful form of resistance in that the individual constantly puts off doing what he knows he needs to do for his well-being and transformation. Procrastination is continually avoiding the vital work necessary to change one's life. One place where procrastination has shown up is with the implementation of the Daily Health Plan. Procrastination is about believing that you do not deserve the change and transformation. The solution is to know or be aware that you are procrastinating but do what you resist anyway.
Creating Excuses: Excuses are seemingly compelling thoughts and ideas that stop a person from doing the work of transformation. Excuses will initially appear to the person as valid reasons to do or not do something another person has suggested to help them transform their lives. Excuses are used to stop a person from carrying out his Daily Health Plan. The solution is when you become aware of the excuse preventing you from doing what you initially planned, do what you had initially planned.
While it is essential to occasionally ask yourself if you are resisting change, if you think you might be resisting the work necessary to transform your life in a healthy way, it is equally important to ask another person. While it is essential to have this insight yourself, you may also want to ask your therapist or a trusted critic if they detect any resistance patterns you may be running or using to avoid change. Sometimes, another person can see our "blind spots" much better than we can and, in the process, help us to move past them.
Dr. Harry Henshaw
